There is a popular belief that the right or perfect opportunity doesn't come around often or even comes around at all. Some people tend to wait around for that chance to somehow show up one day when the timing is right. Others go create their own opportunities in a proactive manner. Where might you be on this spectrum? Are you possibly the one waiting for the opportunity to come knock at your door? Are you maybe the one who continuously seeks opportunities and is willing to try anything? Or maybe you are a calculated opportunity seeker who measures and analyzes constantly? Or maybe, just maybe you are the one that did not answer that "knock on the door" in the past and have regretted it since then? My hope in this blog entry is that I can share some perspectives with you on "Being ready to answer" when an opportunity knocks.
At times I've had clients come to me with regret due to a missed opportunity from the past and are eager to make amends to be ready for the next one. There are plenty of reasons for passing up or missing out on the perfect opportunity. Here are a few mentions: timing, feelings, state of mind, family status, alignment.
These are only a few but they are what I believe to be the core reasons. Let's look at these one by one.
Timing is not about having the time to take the opportunity. It is more about a point in time that the opportunity would need to be passed up due to circumstance. Most of us are more confident when the timing is good or perfect. Why? Because timing serves a role to uphold cohesive order and orchestrates the natural flow of events. In other words "actions fall into place". This exact logic then lends to the belief that "this was meant to be".
Feelings are connected to emotions. We are humans and therefore live in our emotions daily. The opportunities are then passed up because it just didn't "feel right". As humans we have a 6th sense called a gut feeling. We use this probably daily as it is ingrained in our DNA to a certain extent. It is part of our fight or flight survival instinct.
Your state of mind will influence your decisions to pass up an opportunity. This could be due to any psychological issues you might be dealing with or even something you are going through in relation to a personal matter or trauma. Being in the right state of mind is key to making better decisions when it comes to important matters or choices.
Family status can have an impact on your decisions to pass up various opportunities over time. This is also in conjunction with timing as you will make decisions that will affect your partner or children in a family setting. This could also include other immediate family members or even extended ones.
Finally alignment in my perspective is to be true and honest to yourself, your core values, and belief system. You will pass up opportunities if they are not in alignment with these aforementioned principles. These decisions are more about integrity and sticking to your ethical foundation.
I am sure plenty of people have passed up an opportunity in the past due to one of these reasons. At the end of the day these are all personal choices that will differ in nature from person to person. We are all different and will make our decisions based on our own individual needs and desires. My goal is to bring awareness to why we choose to turn down and pass up these opportunities as well as to ensure you are ready for the next one that knocks at your door.
Answering the knock on the door is about being confident and fearless. I know that it is easier said than done. You will look through the peep hole and will come up with reasons why NOT to answer the door. Human nature will kick in and your fight or flight instinct will want to take over. The question you have to ask yourself is " What is the worst that can happen?". You will have a million answers for that of course. But then I will ask you to consider, "What if this works out after all?". The only way you will know is if you actually ANSWER the knock on the door and take a chance.
Remember that SUCCESS IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR. Once you overcome the fear of trying something new (opening the door) then you have already succeeded. You have accomplished the first step to seize the opportunity. Whether you succeed or fail doesn't matter, what matters is that you believed in yourself and in your abilities. Courage is what changes the world, your world. Many people have regrets due to fear of failure and uncertainty. Would it not be better if the regret was more about not taking even more chances than to never have tried at all?
It is said that luck is really just being ready for when the opportunity arises. Some of us are ready(lucky) and some of us are not(unprepared). If you are ready and prepared the chances of success are probably higher. This is because there is a sense and feeling of confidence and certainty. The more you are informed and an expert in a specific topic or field the more you are likely to succeed. The quote above "If opportunity doesn't knock build a door' is signifying for you to take ACTION and make your own opportunities. I believe that seizing an opportunity and making your own is relatively the same concept. If you are not ready you will pass up on both scenarios. That being said, TO BUILD A DOOR is a metaphor that really says BUILD YOUR FOUNDATION of yourself and prepare for the moment so when it comes you are ready to seize it. Here are some tools for your opportunity "belt":
1. Work on self improvement (training, education, career initiatives,). This instills confidence and increases knowledge.
2. Work on self confidence (motivational seminars, read inspirational books, healthy life style). Feeling good will have a profound effect on mindfulness and cognitive thinking.
3. Understand your WHY (what do you truly want in life and why?) What matters to you will influence your decisions.
4. Remove fears and limiting beliefs (letting go of the things that hold you back will unleash the NEW you to seize the opportunity). Work with a life coach to help you start your new journey. https://vidarealcoaching.com/
5. Start (1-4 ) NOW (there is no such thing as perfect timing or the perfect moment). Remember that "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago". The longer you wait the further behind you will be.
Opportunities come and go. The perfect opportunity rarely exists and the perfect time is practically a myth. You are for the most part the creator of your own opportunities when they come around and also when you create your own. You are the author of that story as it does not exist if you don't take a chance on it. The story is only true when you take action and live it. It is only a non-fiction when you pass up on it as it never will exist. What life story do you want to tell? The one with true action and a story book ending of success and triumph? Or will you write the non-fiction fantasy of what could have been? The one with unfulfilled dreams and goals and surrounded by regrets? I personally would love to read your story of the latter. The one that seized the moment and will inspire us all.
Love your journey......
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