The Life Coach's Corner

         There is a time and a place when you come to that fork in the road.  That ultimate crossing of different paths you are looking to take.  The fear is all too real in your mind and you feel the tension percolating through your nervous system.  What makes this moment of anxiety so painstakingly at times insurmountable?  Why does the logical mind sometimes not align with what the heart wants? What is it that pulls us to and from the correct or incorrect decision.  Is the answer as simple as the emotion we know as FEAR?      Many clients that I coach come to me for help when they feel stuck and unsure of how to take that next step.  Most of the coaching in the beginning is to help them identify those limiting beliefs that are holding them back.  There are plenty of self imposed barriers created by those beliefs. They are subconsciously buried  in layers of self judgement and self doubt. The main root cau...

    One of the biggest hurdles for my clients to overcome is the lack of confidence due to the limiting beliefs that are heavily rooted in their minds. I say in their minds because that is essentially the issue in its entirety.  It is all a specific mindset that has evolved overtime.  The seeds are planted early (sometimes in young childhood) once people are able to connect actions and thoughts into their own perspectives and beliefs.  People are told what they can or can't do.  If their thoughts are against their own cultural norms then they are told to think differently and change who they want to be or do.  This is all part of the domestication process and it has been going on since the beginning of time.  Regardless of one's beliefs there has always been a certain "way' to be, do, and act.  The freedom to think outside the box has never really been encouraged unless it is for the greater good of humanity and can ultimately be controlled....

    In the spirit of college and high school graduation season I want to explore the ties between commencement ceremonies and life changing perspectives.        I sometimes get clients that are experiencing a new part of their journey. They are moving from one experience to another one. Just as a graduate finishes their studies and is ready to take on the new challenge of using what they have learned over the last few years. There are many emotions associated with this accomplishment. Some feel energized and others feel uneasy and maybe even unsure of where to begin.       The same could be said of those who are transitioning in other parts of their lives. This could be a new job, a new career path. They could be looking for a fresh start due to an ending relationship or even a start of a health journey due to past illness. Either way they are “graduating “ from that life experience and taking what they have learned to use in their ...

  In reading Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Three questions", I came across chapter 8 which is titled, "The Commander in Chief", and noticed I had a few fresh perspectives.  The Commander in Chief is considered the position of the president of the United States.  To most it is a position of power and sometimes prestige depending on your perspective.  To others its a position that no one wants as it includes many responsibilities that frankly most people don't care to take on for obvious reasons. So how does this chapter in this book help to answer the popular question, "Who am I"?     In essence you are the commander in chief of your own personal government.  You are in charge of how you manage your thoughts, actions, and how you take care of your body.  You decide how to react to others that want to be part of your own personal government.  You make your own rules and set the boundaries you wish others to respect.  This might seem difficult to ...

    As a life coach one of my goals is to help clients find and develop the best version of themselves. Most of the work is done by the client as they look deep inside themselves to find the answers they seek.  My role is to provide fresh new perspectives and use my own intuition and experiences to help guide them through their specific life journey.  In order to gain a valuable coaching experience one important aspect needs to be known:  What is your motivation ? The answers are plenty as we are motivated by numerous things that we value.  They rank in importance depending where we are currently in life.  The next question is usually never asked , " What is your motivation style ?"  Let me define the six motivation styles first and then we can explore a few of them.     The six motivation styles are: * Intrinsic Motivation : doing something for the love of the activity, or for the internal satisfaction you get from doing it, rathe...

    The quality of the relationships around us largely determine our effectiveness and happiness.  If you are in any way a part society and do not live under a rock, it's safe to assume you have an idea of what I am talking about.  Relationships are part of our lives each and everyday.  Some are complex and others might seem inconsequential in nature.  Relationships are evident at home, work, school, your local bank, your neighborhood grocery store, churches or places of community gatherings, and yes - even social media! The latter is the newest type and it cannot be ignored nor minimized as we are consumed by it now more than ever.      For the sake of this blog I'd like to focus on what is known as the "powerful" relationships.  What is the powerful aspect of these relationships?  The answer will vary from person to person as the decision to label it as "powerful" is up to each individual.  I will ask a client during a coachi...

     How are those new resolutions and goals you set in late 2023 going so far?  Isn't that the $64K question?  That was once one of my biggest struggles and I'm sure many people deal with it year after year.  Why is this so?  Why make promises to yourself in the name of the new year and tied it in to a specific feeling or belief?  The Chronical Online states the origins of the new year resolution below: Believing that Janus could look into the future,  Romans often offered sacrifices to the deity in the promise of a good year . Since then, the holiday and traditions have transformed from promises to the gods to promises to oneself leading to what we know today as New Year's Resolutions. Some types of resolutions:     This concept of starting fresh after 12/31 has been in practice for centuries and is part of our many cultures world wide.  Some are traditional in nature and others have evolved exponentially over time.  The...